DMX on Iyanla Vanzant's show Fix My Life

So I just finished watching (online) rapper DMX on  Iyanla Vanzant's show Fix My Life, and DMX was a hot mess. He claimed he was not no drugs during the first section but he appeared very unstable. DMX can't handle strong emotions. He broke down in tears when talking about his mother, grandmother and wife Tashera stating that his wife ‘completed’ him (although they have been estranged for seven years because he cheated on her and has many children out of wedlock and his angry behaviour upset their children)... He reminded me of a little four year old boy in need of love from his mother and father.

Iyanla was not as direct as she normally is. You could tell Iyanla was holding her tongue and accommodating his behaviour. Iyanla had to be 'accommodating' or there would not have been a show- at one point DMX walked out but Iyanla was very smart and may have sensed he would walk out. During the first ten minutes she spoke to X about  ‘honouring’ his commitments, and he said he did (apart from his marriage), and with that earlier admission X was committed to continuing with the show and talking to his son Xaviar.

Dmx referred to his son as a ‘random person’ and claimed that his son did not want to spend time with him. DMX said that his eldest son Xaviar only calls when the family needs money (I don't think DMX has provided for his family consistently over the last 7years so why wouldn't his
son call him).

My heart did break for his 20yr old son because all he wanted was his father to be ‘clean’,  to get rid of drugs for good but DMX said no that love should not come with conditions. Yes love should be unconditional but his son was not talking about love he was talking about having a relationship and he does not want to see his father dead or be in a negative relationship with someone that is high all the time. 

Anyway, I had two problems with the shows format- 1. How are you going to 'fix' Dmx's life in such a short amount of time. Yes I know DMX has been on these types of shows before but I question why? He initially said he was there because he is addicted to sex/women but later said he could control himself- he said he did not care if he had a relationship with his older son- so why was the show built around trying to mend that relationship.

2.Dmx needed medical intervention before conducting this interview - DMX may have mental health problems and is using the wrong drugs to cope. I don't think the show was acting from an ethical stand point. He was clearly mentally unwell and seemed as if he was on drugs even if he said he was not. 

However, his wife and eldest son seemed 'fixed', so I guess something good has come from this.

Harlem react to the Harlem shake fad

God I thought the Harlem shake was long gone along P.Diddy's name change, the bogle(1993), the shuffle (1990) and the dutty wine (2006) (wait isn't Beyonce still dutty wining in 2013 *sigh*). But no, in 2012 it became the name of a song by Baauer. So now it's 2013, and the song with random dancing is now become a 'viral' youtube fad, similar to planking (remember that). 

Anyway, someone took the time to interview Harlem residents to ask them what they thought of people randomly dancing to a song called the Harlem shake. It made me laugh, they took it so seriously one guy said '[he] thinks it's a violation against Harlem'....Nevertheless, the video sort of made me want to go there next time am in New York, just to find the guy dancing with the Burberry Scarf on his head - Stop that shit B..... 

lance armstrong on oprah

Just finished watching Oprah interviewing Lance Armstrong. Actually I watched it three times (I don't watch much tv so I was fascinated).

Lance Armstrong was born on the18 September 1971. He won the Tour de France 7 times but almost  7 yrs after retiring in 2005he would confess to being a cheat (although he denied cheating for 13yrs all in all)  and less than 3mins into the the interview Lance admits to lying but later say's he was never scared or felt any guilt at the time-Oprah: Did it not even feel wrong? Lance: No, it's scary. Oprah: Did you feel bad about it? Lance: No, even scarier. Oprah: Did you feel in anyway that you were cheating? Lance: No, that's the scariest

He claims he " does not have a great answer'' to why he lied for so long but said  it was just 'one big lie [he] repeated over again''.He said 'the story was so perfect for so long- wins over so many times, battles cancer, has successful marriage and kids but that picture was a lie. behind that picture was momentum''. 

Basically I think he came clean for two reasons, in his head and in his own words Armstrong acknowledges that "it's to late for most people" meaning he is not in the height of success anymore and there is nothing driving him. Another reason may be that was the only way he could control the situation, admiting it was his fault. Let's remember this man is a control freak, lance armstrong's personality resembles characteristics of a sociopath.

some signs of a sociopath are-


#3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse. Their brains simply lack the circuitry to process such emotions. This allows them to betray people, threaten people or harm people without giving it a second thought. They pursue any action that serves their own self interest even if it seriously harms others. This is why you will find many very "successful" sociopaths in high levels of government, in any nation.

#4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason it sounds believable at the time.

#5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and "win" at all costs. They hate to lose any argument or fight and will viciously defend their web of lies, even to the point of logical absurdity.

#6) Sociopaths tend to be highly intelligent, but they use their brainpower to deceive others rather than empower them. Their high IQs often makes them dangerous. This is why many of the best-known serial killers who successfully evaded law enforcement were sociopaths.

Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/036112_sociopaths_cults_influence.html#ixzz2ILRZwTTt

 okay so he did not kill anyone. He only really dissociate from his actions but he did sue and called others liars, whores and so on...to be fair we all lie or try to create [at some point of our lives] an ideal image -

Boots- Vintage Hunter boots

 Lucky me :) I had just written a post on boots and to my surprise my friends mother gave me a pair of her old size 5 hardly worn ("vintage") Hunter boots. Oringinally made by North British Rubber company which was later bought by a limited American based company (Uniroyal) in 1966. However the company was soon bought by another company.

The Uniroyal pair (seen on Princess Di in the 70's) are often difficult to find (in your size) but check eBay (may range from about £19.00-40.00 of course they will be second hand) there is also the Huntress boots for women  although they are even harder to source (in multiple sizes...). Although I am a size uk6 the size5 are really comfy.

You can see that the older boots have white fabric lining opposed to the third picture below.

The Hunter boot is often associated with ''Heritage'' clothing now seen on old/young wealthy/working class etc alike. However, when I was growing up this style of clothing was only reserved for the "Sloane Ranger" crowd (you known the, I own a house in the country but I live in the city type) such as Princess Diana and alike. Another brand that fits into that category is the waxed/or quilted Barbour jackets (as seen below).

Anyway back to the Hunter- The Hunter style boot we see today is from the Hunter Rubber Company, established back in 2004 around the same time the boot became synonymous with festivals such as Glastonbury, model Kate Moss and actress Sienna Miller.

So what has changed - The log/typeface on the front now just says HUNTER ...but the most notable change is the inside lining ( I detest the new lining although the ''original lining was/is not great either).

Although the boots main structure remains the same I love the older boots, I now cringe when I see the new boot (how weird is that!)